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I know that you have heard gobs about balance
wheels where you look at your life and all the components in it. Normally
there are six to eight different areas positioned on the wheel—financial,
career, family, education, leisure, community, spiritual and health. These
areas have probably changed for you over the years, but the important thing is
to decide what they are for you right now.
I want you to sit down and really think about
where you want to be a year from now. It may not be easy, but it will get
you started. Once you come up with it, divide it into quarters, then into
months, then weeks and finally days. Next you need to write down in your
daily to-do’s, whatever it takes to make this happen. You’ll be
surprised that once you become focused, it all falls into place.
Spend as much time as necessary deciding what
areas you want to concentrate on. Start by listing the things you think
about, wish for, envy, always wanted to do and post them wherever you go.
The more you think about things, the more vivid they will appear. Travel
may seem like fun until you do it. Working with artists may seem
intriguing until it happens on a daily basis.
Only you can decide how you want those areas
divided up. How much time do you want to spend on each area? 25%,
50%, 10% in one, 35% in another? Then follow your plan. It doesn’t
matter what anyone else thinks—it’s what works for you.
If your idea makes sense to you, go ahead and
do it. It may have to be tweaked and nudged a little, but the forward
momentum will produce results for you which will lead to other better
“happenings.” Never let anyone control you or your thoughts.
Others can have an impact or influence, but you are in charge of your own life.
And if you’re really an S.O.B., you will find a way and not accept any
excuses.
What is it you have to do every single day?
There has to be a semblance of order to your life. How much time do you
really have to do the things you’ve listed? Are there only four of the
eight areas above that are important to you? Which is the absolutely most
important priority?
For example, my exercise and fitness is
extremely precious to me so that takes over as priority #1 unless there is a
speaking engagement, family emergency, or an airplane to catch. It sets my
mood for the day, allows me to fight off illness and accomplish even more in the
day. Therefore it takes up a major portion on my personal wheel.
When deciding how you want to do things, ask
yourself if it’s going to be important five years from now. And be sure
you laugh every day by yourself or with someone else. Fun gives you energy
so be excited about who you are and what you’re doing.
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What is this spirit and attitude
thing? Is the S.O.B. outlook so different than anyone else’s?
You bet!!
If you wake up with a smile on your
face, joy in your heart and energy and enthusiasm in your
step—you’re one of us. If you pull yourself along with
sleepiness in your body, despair in your soul and no one to share with,
then you need to become one of us.
Make up your mind here and now you
will only think positive thoughts and no matter what gets in your way,
you can cope and handle it. Did you know that five minutes of
negative thinking takes 24 hours to recover from? Are you around
negative people? Although you can’t eliminate all negativity
from your life, S.O.B.’s have a way of letting these people take only
minor time and thought processes from them. When you surround
yourself with folks who are motivating, enthusiastic and happy, you
become the same way.
There’s a thin line between conceit
and confidence. Conceit is when you believe you’re the only one
who can do something, and confidence is when you know that you do a very
good job at what you’re attempting. Confidence can never be
replaced and conceit needs to be totally eliminated from your
vocabulary.
Your goal needs to be what I have used
as a motto my entire life. BE THE BEST YOU CAN BE. Don’t
ever compare yourself with anyone else, and do the best job that is
possible for you at the time. If you practice that, you’ll
always be at the top of your game. Never compare yourself with
someone else—that’s not a win.
It’s great to have role models and
try to emulate your heroines, but you are you, and need to accept
yourself for who you are. There will always be someone who is
taller, slimmer, richer or luckier than you are. That doesn’t
mean you can’t live a full, exciting, happy, stimulating and
successful life. Envy does no one any good.
Wanting to achieve, having a role
model, using your influence for the good, and giving to the less
fortunate are all positives and make you feel terrific. When you
look in the mirror do you see a “neat lady?” When you are
happy with you, you can really start appreciating everyone else.
Part of attitude is how you go about
your day. Ask yourself, “What did I accomplish today? For
fun and for myself?” This is your time, S.O.B.’s, and if
you started with a fresh slate right now, what would you like to
accomplish in terms of impact. Would you start a new career,
become a mentor or role model for someone younger than yourself, move to
an entirely new area?
Enjoy the present, learn from the past
and plan for the future.
©2006
Dr. Gayle Carson, CSP, CMC to read more about Gayle, click here http://www.womenofwisdom.com/GayleCarson.htm
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