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During a career transition
has anyone ever said this phrase to you: "One door
closes and the next door opens"? Well, if you're about
to lose your job, change industries, reluctantly move to
another state, or interview for the first time in ten years,
that goodwill statement probably doesn't make you feel
better. Do you know why? The real issue is not about whether
the door is opening or closing, but how you deal with hell
in the hallway!
Don't get me wrong; sometimes the door that
closes is a good one, such as when you receive a six month
severance package, transfer your skills to a new department,
or complete a certificate that will add a new
"star" to your resume. Many times the closed door
represents a pink slip, being passed over for a promotion,
or coming to grips with a new leader that hires his/her
"people." During these times, unawareness takes
over (versus consciousness) and you find yourself heaving
the next door open by jamming your foot in the doorway. You
are determined (until hell freezes over) to put a square peg
into a round hole (even if it kills you!). You might even be
vaguely aware that if you are using force, it's probably not
the right opportunity or choice for you.
Hell in the hallway flushes out your
courageous intentions. Women, in particular, seem to hold
themselves to a high benchmark thus creating undo pressure.
If they don't make it, they don't think of themselves as
capable or courageous. What's important is to recognize that
there is a direct correlation between your success quotient
and your courage quotient. People who dissect the
professional steps in their lives can underscore if they are
stepping up or staying fixed on one step. An ancient Chinese
proverb says, "He who hesitates before each step spends
his life on one leg."
Be Accountable for Your Choices
Stepping up to your next career advancement is similar to
climbing a standard six-foot ladder. The first step on the
ladder is low and wide. Each consecutive step becomes higher
and narrower. Near the top of the ladder, the ascent can get
a little shaky as the steps taper. This is where blame takes
over or complacency settles in. A courageous person
observant, reevaluates what is true and vital, then summons
their courage. . . and steps up. By courage, I mean
integrating, claiming and relying on the original
definition: "heart and spirit." One of the
behaviors of courage is to hold yourself 100% accountable
for your choices. Every choice you make has great
consequence and these choices reverberate throughout your
life-to the very end!
Recall and list some of the times you found
yourself in the hallway? Are you in the hallway now? If so,
what's going on? Many times if force is being used it's not
the right option and you're not coming from a place of
Courage Centering™. There are times when the door opens
right away, such as being recruited out of college or having
an advocate employed in the company where you hope to work.
In my experience, most advancement in consciousness came
while I was in the hallway. Many of my clients say they
discovered their "calling" during those lonely
screams or sleepless nights in the hallway.
Depressed and scared, they were truly not in
the mood to reinvent themselves one more time (one of the 12
behaviors of courage). My calling came to me while I was
pacing in the hallway: I was supposed to conduct research on
the behaviors of courage and author books and present on the
subject. Yikes! I was neither a writer nor a journalist.
Courage Makes Your "Calling"
Come Alive
Most people don't have a clue about their calling or what
makes their heart sing. Think about a time and an issue
around which you found yourself animated. Animation is an
energy that makes you feel alive in your core-in your heart.
There's a good chance that encounter, perhaps nearly
forgotten, was your calling. It will now require the virtue
(from Latin, meaning "energy") of courage to make
it come alive!
Do you choose to stay on the same rung of
the ladder during a career transition because you're in the
hallway? Will you choose the courage killer-complacency?
Giving yourself permission to claim and apply your courage
halts self-righteousness and prepares you to activate your
authenticity. It's a perfect starting place if you want to
multiply your talents and effectiveness, define with clarity
what is vital in your life and what is not, and escalate
your work.
Your career transition or advancement is not
outside your control. Courage is a joyful essence that
supports you to be "real" during times of
uncertainty. It allows you to embrace new dilemmas, overcome
reluctance and rise above ambivalence. This is the time to
embrace your reservoir of courage and step up.
After all, courage isn't something you
stumble upon as you round the corner of the cubicle at the
office. It is a practical tool, consciously chosen by
authentic people in defining moments. Get out of the
hallway: alter your professional destiny with courage.
Sandra Ford Walston's 12-point
courage leadership diagram called the "Source
Wheel" is the result of more than 700 survey forms and
five years of original research that easily links that there
is a direct correlation between your success quotient and
your courage quotient. Random House saw this as a new
perspective when they published COURAGE:
The Heart and Spirit of Every Woman/Reclaiming the Forgotten
Virtue, endorsed by Marianne Williamson, Jack
Canfield, Neale Donald Walsch, to name few. Known as The
Courage Expert™, Sandra provides leadership consulting for
a variety of organizations, such as Farmers Insurance,
Proctor & Gamble, Diner's Club, Wide Open West and
Caterpillar, Inc. She is qualified to administer and
interpret the Enneagram and the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator.
Watch for COURAGE GOES
TO WORK next year. Visit http://www.walstoncourage.com

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